There is so much that is possible through connection with another human being. I spent so much of my life, contorting myself into who I believed I needed to be in order to receive love, attention, and approval.
The pattern started with my father, and then extended out into all of my intimate and sexual relationships with men in my life once I started dating.
No matter how powerful, how beautiful, how talented, how loving I knew myself to be, there was some switch that flipped when it came to being in an intimate relationship with a man where sex could be involved.
And it still happens.
I’m not immune to the real challenge of committing to being my authentic self even in the face of losing love or “failing” in a relationship.
These challenges in being real in relationship don’t go away — they just level up to the next ring on the spiral.
I’ve been reading a book lately, that speaks to the heart of why I believe a rewrite of modern day “relationship” needs to happen. In her book “The Future of Love”, Daphne Rose Kingma writes:
“This is the moment. We are being invited to move from falling in love to loving, from romance to true love, from relationships that are an undertaking of the personality to unions that are illuminated by the soul. We are being asked to mature into our true wholeness, as human beings who are in fact divine eternal souls, and ware being invited to do this in relationship”.
This feels like the core work to me — learning how to be human beings on this planet, being connected to our own truth and our own desires, while being able to hold space and approval for someone else’s — even if those truths and desires directly oppose our own beliefs.
How do we create relationships based on what is true in the moment, rather than what was true in the past, or what society believes is right or social acceptable?
This is the coaching work I do with my clients.
I help them to release all the layers of shame, judgment and conditioned self-doubt, so that they can finally connect with who they ACTUALLY are. Otherwise, how can we know what we actually want?
I believe that anything is possible when we release shame about who we are and what we desire while in connection with another human being.
I help people craft relationship containers that support and reflect the genuine desires of each person and the vision of the relationship as a whole.
So often, I see relationships ending…not because the two people aren’t a good match for each other…but because there is so much shame, self-judgment and self-doubt about who we are and what we actually want, that neither person is able to fully show up present and in their power.
Whether you are single, in a relationship or actively dating, if it’s a resonant fit, we’ll work together to completely redefine the way you engage in and create intimate relationships, by dropping the limiting stories and getting crystal clear about who you are and what you actually want.
If you want to schedule a complimentary conversation with me to talk about what coaching together would look like, fill out the Discovery Call Application and we’ll find a time to connect.
With Love & Devotion to the Process,